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#66083 Weberman trial coming up

Posted by cynic on 10 December 2012 - 09:56 PM

Seen on Facebook:
In light of increased twitter and Facebook activity by both Weberman supporters and detractors, the gedolim have finally decided to Assur child molestation, since it leads to internet use


#87438 What would get you to throw feces and chairs?

Posted by grend123 on 24 May 2013 - 09:19 AM

The question is stupid simply because it's predicated on the obviously false assumption that there is any circumstance wherein throwing feces is the most effective solution to some problem. Short of someone holding a gun to you and threatening to kill you otherwise, it is impossible to construct such a scenario. Even if your life was on the line it would not be an obvious question, depending on the target and the degree of chillul hashem involved. The fact that you think there are "reasonable" conditions under which you'd be willing to throw feces at a human being - in shul! - speaks very poorly for your moral compass and the religious viewpoints you espouse.




#83706 The sex manual for ultra-Orthodox Jews

Posted by starwolf on 25 April 2013 - 10:37 AM

Yes, they insist, because, kabbalistically, consummation is supposed to closely follow the chuppah. But I have lot of anecdotal evidence that this kabbalistic dictate is often not fulfilled.


Aha. So it boils down to:


If you are chasidic, you have to consummate that very night.
If you consummate a few nights later, you are ysehivish.
If you consummate afew nights earlier, you are MO.


#30290 nursing a baby is like having sex

Posted by razie on 15 March 2012 - 11:24 AM

- Gotta remove/adjust some clothes
- Sometimes special lingerie helps
- Burns calories
- if you're all dried out, you gotta supplement from a bottle
- sometimes involves grunting noises
- Sometimes leaves a wet spot
- if it's not working, try another position
- if it's not working, it might be worth it to switch to the other hole
- white creamy stuff
- sometimes there's a little vomit after the fact

- start out hard, end up flaccid
- sometimes a woman's partner falls asleep on her
- might leak before you get started if you get too excited


#27257 Baby Dies of Herpes After Bris. Again.

Posted by Gabbe on 04 March 2012 - 10:08 PM

No. Our mohel was "that" mohel from monsey, and he continues to practice minus the 'b'peh' stuff. (he's also a great mohel and I'd use him again in a heartbeat. This stuff is tragic but realistically you're more likely to have a child die of SIDS than mbp.)

This is what I find disturbing about the chabad website comments.

IT DOES NOT MAKE A DIFFERENCE HOW LIKELY IT IS TO HAPPEN RELATIVE TO OTHER TRAGEDIES.

What matters is that it does happen, and can be prevented. Saying that a death is one in a million is no excuse if that one death can be prevented.


#81553 My Kid Said....

Posted by Snag on 07 April 2013 - 05:45 AM

7-year old, when told that I'd prefer he didn't ride his bike on shabbos: "Since when did webecome so righteous?"


#77771 Modesty corner

Posted by aseeker on 28 February 2013 - 11:37 PM

See...this is why I need Orthodox Judaism to remind me of my inherent irresistiblity. It's not enough for me to know my hair, elbows, and knees have the raw power to drive men out of their senses...I might forget the sensual qualities of my toes and accidentally show one, causing men everywhere to go mad with desire and have no choice but to chase me down the street.

Judaism...making me feel more like a supermodel every day...

Besides, once they roll out the burquas, then who can disprove my claims of being a ravishing beauty? Even my husband might not know for sure! :D


#75607 Would you breastfeed someone else's kid?

Posted by utmj on 10 February 2013 - 05:02 PM

Perhaps, but most people who give formula don't fall into those categories.

And you know this how?

 

There is only one thing worse then  a female breastfeeding nazi, and that is a male breastfeeding Nazi.

 

I nursed all of my kids. One had severe oral motor issues that made it nearly impossible to nurse. I still broke my back to do it for over 9 months. I had no choice but to supplement with formula because of his issues. There were people like you back then who gave me horrible guilt trips over it. they would sooner have my child die of malnutrition then take formula. Someone suggested vegan rice product instead of evil formula. LLL suggested I refuse to give my son a bottle and he would be forced to magically make his muscles work and nurse. Guess what....that did not work. I found a wonderful LC when my son was 2 weeks old. I told her the issues my son was having, and she told me point blank, we can work on the nursing issue, but either way you need to supplement because your childs life is in danger.

 

Even the LC who was super pro nursing said that she would only allow me to continue to nurse if my son gained weight, even if it was a slow weight gain. Many pediatricians do not get how breastfeeding works, they will say things like, well nurse and then give a bottle, if baby takes the formula then you don't have enough milk. this is often not true. They are not LC's and are not trained in breastfeeding, and the scientist in them likes knowing the number of ounces going into a baby. But that doesn't mean that they are all on the payroll of the formula companies. Nor does it mean that they are always wrong on the subject.

 

I am a major supporter of breast feeding, am finding your posts both ignorant obnoxious. You do not win people over by telling them the evils of formula. Having nursed in very difficult circumstances. I can thing of many reasons why one would not do it. And I find your reasons why a women would not to be lacking. Not all women can pump milk effectively, even with the top of the line tools. I know, I have tried for years. I had plenty supply as long as I was with my baby, but pumping for hours yielded very little result, so had I needed to go back to work, my baby would have needed formula in my absense. I am happy that I live in a time where there is formula. Formula may not be a first choice but is a bracha in many cases.

 

I have never had a baby in the NICU, BH, I watched my friend go through it 4 times. I know just how stressed she was, between taking care of herself, her older children, and running back and forth to the hospital to be with  her tiny preemie, I would never have told her she needed to pump on top. the poor women was ragged,  postpartum, and didn't have the time to take a shower. Thank god, the feeding of her baby was taken off her head. The fact of the matter is that formula has more calories per ounce then breast milk, even those that do pump for preemies need to use a breast milk booster to match the calorie content of preemies (22 cal per oz) because preemies need the extra calories desperately.

 

 

Its also nice and easy when someone tells you to nurse, try doing it with a baby who breaks out in hives through allergens in your breastmilk. I did that for twenty months. And it was very hard. I lived without over 20 very basic foods in order to do so. I know many women who just can't do it. BH for hypoallergenic formula.




#61886 Gay marriage

Posted by Indigo on 07 November 2012 - 07:48 PM

Seems to me the same free society that gives gays the freedoms and rights to live as they choose is the same free society that gives me enormous freedoms and rights to live as an observant and religious Jew.

It seems to me that discouraging tolerance and freedoms to others engenders a society that tomorrow could curtail my ability to live as I choose.


#55005 cRc Kashrus alert

Posted by Indigo on 09 August 2012 - 10:18 AM

so it's halachically pareve but labelled as dairy?
sounds wacked to me.

maybe they need a new designation cRC-D-j/k


#46662 My Kid Said....

Posted by Indigo on 01 June 2012 - 05:45 PM

Parent: what should we buy for your friends coming for the oneg tonight?

Kid: you need to go into the aisles you always skip

Parent: You mean you want everything with food coloring, chemicals, processed wheat, bleached sugar, shortening and white potatoes?

Kid: Yes please.


#46213 Ami magazine on Kollel and Student Loans

Posted by Snag on 30 May 2012 - 12:18 PM

What a complete idiot this author is. I don't even have anything else to say. Idiot.


#44384 Half-shabbos

Posted by Indigo on 17 May 2012 - 08:13 AM

Once again, care to clarify?

It makes me too angry. I don't know where to start.

I think a lot of things are going on here. Technology, teens, the failings of Modern Orthodoxy -- it's a sexy topic and perfect storm. But it's much ado about nothing.

Everyone has their reasons for wanting to turn this into a cause célèbre. NCSY lives for fear mongering to make themselves relevant. Mechanchim love telling everyone how the world is coming to an end and the solution is more intense Jewish education at $20k a pop. Obviously the torah truthers want to use this to demonstrate the failings of Modern Orthodoxy or Orthodoxly-Lite. It's also a way for mechanchim to blame technology for their own failures: they are doing great jobs in schools educating kids about the beauty of shabbos, but the villain is technology.


But from talking to my own kids, and other parents, and from comments on many, many sites and blogs, nobody actually knows anyone frum who does this. When this was circulating around the Internet, some rabbi spoke about how the world is coming to an end, but there isn't anyone who actually does this. All this did, according to my kids, was:
1. make the one girl who texts on shabbos in the minyan feel like two cents, even though her family isn't observant, and this is something she does on her own, she comes to this NCSY minyan, and does her best, only to be berated as the cause of the world coming to an end
2. make kids look around and wonder who among them are sinners

This fear mongering accomplishes nothing except makes NCSY and mechanchim feel relevant, that they are the last line of defense against wholesale chillul shabbos.
Kids text. Yes they do. They used to yap on the phone till all hours. Get over it. The same teachers decrying texting probably text during davening, and they as kids probably yapped till all hours on the phone.

There isn't an epidemic of otherwise frum kids, who would be shomer shabbos if not for the terrible technology of texting, who are addicted to texting and they otherwise keep shabbos but text. It's made up. So maybe in this camp or that school it's a problem. Big deal. That's a reflection on those particular kids. Maybe it's a New York thing, I don't know. New Yorkers are an entirely different breed of kid anyway. Ask anyone who goes on summer programs or programs in Israel -- the NY kids are different animals altogether. And that's not le-shevach.

Do kids sometimes violate shabbos in some ways? Of course they do. So do adults. But adults have different ta'avot than kids. So it manifests differently.

18% of kids text on shabbos? Bullshit. It's not true. I don't care what the stupid surveys say. And even if it's true, then 82% don't, and of the 18%, the worse they do is text. That's phenomenal. Never in the history of the diaspora has there been such a high observance rate of shabbos. The mere fact that this is the worst thing fear mongers can come up with is amazing. Chasdei Hashem. I have no doubt that mashiach is around the corner.

Kids used to smoke on shabbos. Then they matured, got married, and got over it. And nobody cares any more.

This whole thing is just a sexy topic. Parents love being scared. It's a motivator. They want to worry about SOMETHING. Thank God for NCSY. They will save us. Donate to NCSY now to stem the descent.

This is something easy to turn into a bogeyman. Rabbis have failed miserably at fixing anything, be it molestation, or agunot, or anything. Half shabbos NCSY kids is an easy target.

The world is not coming to an end because kids are texting on shabbos. The world is coming to an end b/c Pelcovitz is telling parents not to report molestations to the police.

If anything, thank god the worst we can come up with is texting. That means all these kids are otherwise keeping shabbos. Baruch Hashem.


#35379 My Kid Said....

Posted by Arizona on 29 March 2012 - 02:28 PM

"Ima. You always write me a mitzva note. I think the teacher is smarter than that. You should probably also write aveira notes."


#32892 Settling vs. Being Alone

Posted by Psychodad on 22 March 2012 - 08:10 AM

You are so far off base and simply wrong!

Your analogy makes no sense either. I went through plenty of hell in ten years of dating and was many times pressured to settle but it simply didn't make sense to me. So I didn't settle one bit and I found the most wonderful wife in the world. So a little encouragement to people that are thinking of getting hitched simply because of the peer pressure to get married... don't settle ever. G-d created you and he created a perfect spouse for you. TimeRebbe knows what I'm talking about I'm sorry that you don't and hope that one day you will.

You're very naive and arrogant, and that's probably understandable given the temporary high you are on. Conrgatulations to you - I have no ill will toward your happiness. Just remember, the bigger they come the harder they fall. Are you going to blame God when you inevitably doubt he did a perfect job finding you a wife? Time will tell whether you are strong willed or rather just a weak loser who folds under pressure.


#32717 Batei Din And Pedophilia

Posted by cynic on 21 March 2012 - 06:49 PM

Anybody who goes to a BD when their kid is molested should have their parenting rights revoked.


#27140 In Defense of Yeshivish

Posted by Ayeles Hashachar on 04 March 2012 - 05:58 PM

Rav and Rebbetzin Dursley, of number four, Privet Drive, were mechubad to say that they were pinkt heimish, a groyse shkoyach. They were the mamash the last people you'd expect to be mishtatef in any strange or mysterious metzius, because zicher, they didn't hold by such bitul zman.

Rav Dursley was the director of a firm called Grunnings, which made Mezuzos. He was a big, beefy man with hardly any neck, although he did have a very long gray beard. Mrs. Dursley was thin and wore a sheitel and had nearly twice the usual amount of neck, which came in very useful as she spent a gantz time being soimech over garden fences, shmoozing with the oilam. The Dursleys had a zisse son called Dudley and grada no one shepped more nachas than they did from their little bachur.

It's more concise than the original


#25376 My Birthwrong experience

Posted by Indigo on 27 February 2012 - 12:02 PM

if he wants a different perspective he could always ask the Palestinian Authority for a free trip. I wonder if there's a website with their free programs.


#101042 Satmar Child Rape Assembly Line

Posted by Master Zed on 12 November 2013 - 06:42 PM

I'm calling BS... Over 50%??? Please....

 

And I have been to MANY Mikvahs over the course of MANY years and I have never seen anything even remotely inappropriate. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but if over 50% of Chassidic kids are regularly being assraped, I would think it would be readily visible....

 

And if HE caught a rapist red handed, why did HE not call the police? Why does the kid need to file a complaint?




#100125 Staying "by"

Posted by Gabbe on 17 October 2013 - 12:12 PM

Bullshit. It's a carryover from Yiddish that slipped into American English. That's it. No sociology necessary.